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Décrypter la logique punitive dans le cadre BDSM
Explorer les types de sanctions et leurs objectifs
Dans toutes les configurations de couples bdsm, certaines punitions sont des repères fondamentaux pour maintenir l’équilibre dominant/soumis. Fessées, privations, positions forcées ou silence imposé : chaque action cible la discipline, la hiérarchie, ou l’éveil sensoriel sous contrôle.
Domination par punition
Le sadomaso explore plusieurs types de punitions, allant de la fessée au silence imposé ou au port d’un signe distinctif. Ces pratiques codifiées visent la stabilité du couple et la satisfaction des deux partenaires. Dans un rapport sadomaso, punir ne signifie pas faire mal gratuitement, mais affirmer une autorité acceptée et jouer un rôle dans un scénario défini entre dominant et soumis.
Mettre en place une dynamique de domination consentie et bienveillante
L’indispensable alliance entre confiance et consentement
Définir avec clarté les limites est crucial : ce qui est acceptable, ce qui frôle l’intolérable, et ce qui est catégoriquement inacceptable. Ces repères aident à calibrer la punition selon les accords passés, en préservant la confiance. Il est aussi nécessaire de déterminer quels comportements doivent être sanctionnés, afin que la punition conserve son poids, reste ponctuelle et juste, évitant ainsi la routine ou l’arbitraire. Cette rigueur dans l’écoute, la préparation et l’intention confère à la sanction son efficacité dans la dynamique dominant·e/soumis·e, quel que soit le genre ou la nature de la relation. Le consentement représente la pierre angulaire d’une liaison SM, notamment dans la dynamique de soumission masculine. La confiance doit être entière entre la dominatrice et le soumis, fondée sur un échange clair des désirs, limites et non-négociables. La connaissance intime de son ou sa partenaire soumis·e est primordiale avant d’imposer une sanction en bdsm, pour garantir un cadre sûr, consenti et stimulant, en identifiant clairement les sources de plaisir et les limites émotionnelles.
Fonctionnement des safewords et rôle des précautions sécuritaires
Le mot de sécurité, appelé safeword, est le pilier protecteur. Il permet au soumis d’interrompre l’activité lorsque ses limites sont franchies. En l’absence de ce mot, la punition bdsm doit virer à l’excès. Dialoguer est crucial : il convient toujours de clarifier en amont les limites, les attentes et les terrains à explorer, puis de consacrer un moment après la rencontre pour discuter des impressions, des modifications possibles et du vécu de chacun·e. Ces précautions ne limitent pas le plaisir, elles en constituent le socle, car en assurant la sécurité corporelle et affective, elles favorisent une circulation fluide du pouvoir dans un climat de confiance. Pour assurer la sureté dans le cadre des pratiques sadomaso incluant sanctions et jeux de pouvoir, certains principes doivent être respectés. Le choix d’un safeword est indispensable : un mot simple à dire mais rare dans le contexte érotique, tel que « rouge », pour qu’il soit immédiatement reconnu comme un signal d’arrêt. Ce mot offre à la personne soumise la possibilité d’arrêter la rencontre dès qu’une limite est dépassée, garantissant le consentement mutuel. Il est aussi conseillé de prévoir un protocole clair pour interrompre toute activité en urgence, par un mot, un geste ou un signe convenu à l’avance, notamment lorsque la parole est compliquée.
Incorporer la punition au sein des jeux sadomaso
L’art de conjuguer douleur et plaisir dans le jeu sadomaso
La douleur dans la punition SM sert avant tout d’outil pour enrichir la dynamique émotionnelle et psychologique du lien dominant-soumis. Utilisée avec soin, elle génère un sentiment d’abandon profond, où la personne soumise se remet pleinement entre les mains de l’autorité. Cet acte volontaire d’abandon est une force, une preuve de confiance renforçant l’intimité. La douleur peut également déclencher une forte intensité émotionnelle, voire une catharsis, en libérant des tensions intérieures et en faisant surgir des émotions jusque-là enfouies, parfois accompagnée d’un état de conscience modifié. La douleur dépasse le simple ressenti sensoriel pour devenir un vecteur de sensations intenses et personnelles. Ce partage intensifie la liaison entre dominant et soumis, qui repose sur la confiance, le respect des limites et la volonté commune d’explorer ensemble, en sécurité. Ce qui compte n’est pas la douleur brute, mais ce qu’elle révèle et construit dans la liaison BDSM. Lire avec attention les réactions physiques et émotionnelles du soumis est indispensable : un excès de douleur tue le plaisir, un déficit le rend inefficace.
Les contextes et matériels spécifiques à la punition
La sanction dans une relation BDSM s’intègre souvent dans des jeux de rôle ou des mises en scène, ajoutant une dimension psychologique et théâtrale à la relation de domination et soumission. Ces scénarios permettent d’explorer symboliquement le pouvoir tout en respectant un cadre consensuel et codifié. Par exemple, la dominante doit incarner une cheffe stricte qui punit son employé pour une faute imaginaire, renforçant ainsi son autorité par la fiction. Une maîtresse doit corriger son esclave masculin pour une désobéissance, accentuant la dynamique entre contrôle et soumission. Certains organisent un « tribunal SM » où le soumis est jugé selon des règles fixées à l’avance et puni selon un verdict scénarisé. Ces jeux offrent une expérience riche tant sur le plan émotionnel qu’érotique. Les instruments utilisés varient selon l’intensité recherchée : la fessée à main nue reste un classique, intime et directe, tandis que la canne, le martinet ou la paddle permettent une douleur plus intense et ciblée. Dans l’optique de diversifier les sensations, l’utilisation de pinces, de bougies ou de cordes peut être envisagée, apportant une stimulation différente et un contrôle accru. Ces accessoires, choisis minutieusement, permettent de façonner la sanction en un rituel commun, riche en puissance et en sensualité, où le désir découle autant de la scénographie que de l’action.
Veiller à un soin attentif après la séance
L’après-jeu comme moment essentiel pour le ressourcement émotionnel
L’aftercare, ou soin post-séance, est une phase cruciale dans toute pratique BDSM, surtout après une punition ou une scène intense. Il sert à apaiser, consoler et renforcer le lien entre partenaires. Selon les besoins physiques et émotionnels, divers rituels peuvent être adoptés. Un simple câlin enveloppé dans une couverture procure chaleur, sureté et apaisement, aidant à calmer corps et esprit. Un mot tendre, glissé dans le silence, doit suffire à rassurer, valider l’expérience vécue et rappeler le respect et l’affection. Certains privilégient un bain chaud ou un massage pour détendre les muscles, recentrer les sensations et prolonger la connexion dans une douceur palpable. Suite à une punition sadomaso intense, l’aftercare joue un rôle capital. La soumission fait émerger des émotions puissantes, telles que la honte, la tristesse, le soulagement ou l’euphorie, qu’il est indispensable de recevoir avec empathie. Partager ses impressions, ce qui a touché ou gêné, ce qui a fonctionné, est essentiel pour améliorer les futures séances et approfondir la connexion. L’aftercare n’est pas qu’un simple retour à la réalité, mais un temps de soin partagé, de reconnaissance mutuelle et d’ancrage, qui fait de la pratique BDSM un acte profondément humain.
l’intention première de la sanction
Avec respect, écoute et imagination, la punition sadomaso devient un outil efficace de connexion affective, de régulation et de désir partagé. Pour les couples où la femme occupe la place dominante face à un homme soumis, elle établit une dynamique érotique forte et personnalisée.
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Retranscription des paroles de la vidéo: do you want to keep your Dom sub connection alive even while you’re out in public but worry you might draw attention I get it you probably don’t want anyone else noticing what’s supposed to be private but here’s the thing you can engage in subtle meaningful and even kinky ways that are completely under the radar I’m alisander from Doms of living and today I’m sharing 10 ideas you can use to keep your DS Dynamic alive without anyone around you even knowing let’s dive in welcome to the Dom subl podcast before I share all of my proven tips and tricks for DSM public definitely grab my free list of 20 different protocols at domu.com protocols that way you can see real life examples to help Inspire your Dynamic and again you can download that for free at domo.com protocols but back to how to be Dom Sub in public so for many of us DS isn’t just something we keep behind closed doors I know for me and my dom we are 24/7 so even when we’re in public we’re in our dominant and submissive roles and it’s just part of who we are but of course we also want to stay private at times and we want to make sure we’re obeying the laws and so not doing anything overly kinky out in public cuz again you know BDSM is all about consent I’m always saying that on this podcast and so we have to make sure that we’re um respecting the consent of those around us so even in public SP spaces because um especially people like children may even be present so even though we want to you know bring our Dynamic out into the the real vanilla world we have to be mindful and kind of read the room too so that brings me to why I really wanted to make an episode all about this because I know I’m not the only one who really wants to have my Dynamic out in the public and not just something I have to contain to the bedroom it’s something I’m really proud of and I love my identity as a submissive so I I definitely want to be able to express myself at all times and also there’s the kinky side too doing something out in the open is kind of that exhibitionist in me that wants to have that thrill so in this episode I’ll be sharing 10 discrete ideas that work in any setting so this can be a casual outing to even a family gathering and I’m even going to share my favorite way at the very end so definitely stick around but let’s get to the first idea so the first way you can be DS in public is to have secret hand signals and so this is just really a subtle way that you and your partner can kind of just have a code for each other I’ve seen things like a dominant kind of like scratching by their eye and that kind of just means like watch it to their submissive um you can even do subtle hand squeezes so this is something my dom and I do that when we’re holding hands in public we can have just different secret codes for for squeezing our hands together so different patterns will mean different things and so no one knows it we can just be at the dinner table we can be out with friends we can be totally out in public and just holding hands and it looks totally totally normal but we’re squeezing our hands in a certain pattern and it it means something kinky or just even something sweet too so that is one way you can do DS in public now the second idea I have for you is to wear something under your clothes so what you wear or even what you don’t wear can really help you to remember your role and there is a ton of ways you can go about this so of course you can do things like plugs some of them are even remote controlled so that’s a lot of fun you can do different kind of clamps under your clothes you can even do shabari rope harnesses I’ve done that before there’s chastity devices benoa balls you can even write sayings on your body in Sharpie and have you know all of that under clothing so no one would know you can even not wear certain things so going totally Commando under your clothes um that’s something I’ve done before a lot of times if we’re at a party with friends my dom will whisper in my ear to go to the restroom and take off my panties and give them to him even so that way he can walk around with them in his pocket and so it’s just something kinky that we both know that I’m not wearing anything that I just went to the bathroom and took them off and now they’re in his pocket so no one knows what’s going on but so definitely you know think creatively here but what you wear or again what you don’t wear under your clothes can really bring that Dynamic out of the bedroom and then number three is having code words that you can use in conversation so this is kind of like the hand gestures but it’s just certain words or phrases that can mean different things um and they don’t even have to be coded um I use daddy a lot of the time because my dominant is the father of our children and so it doesn’t sound weird or odd when I call him daddy and and so that’s just something that we do too but you can have certain phrases certain code words so that way when you say them it it totally means something for your dynamic and then number four for how you can be domb in public is to wear special jewelry so you know of course I wear my collar and no one has really asked me anything about it other than like oh that’s a nice necklace where’d you get it at that’s kind of the only thing that people really ask me about um and if you are curious where I got it at you can um get my affiliate Link at domom living.com eternity and this is called eternity collar and so you can check it out there but if you’re not into necklaces or collars that’s totally fine there’s tons of different other kinds of jewelry you can have you can have bracelets anklets Rings earrings um I’ve even seen people have keychains even so there’s just different ways you can go about this and it’s just about having that special meaning that maybe only the two of you know um and so it can just bring more um intention to your Dynamic but I know wearing my collar in public just is a a subtle reminder for both me and my dom when we see it when I feel it against me to know that we are still in our Dom sub roles and then number five is having Meal Time rituals so having rules around Meal Time can really represent your dynamic in even a private way even when you’re in a public place even when you’re with family even you know around the Thanksgiving dinner table you can do this or even at a restaurant too so if you’re at a restaurant one thing you can do is the the Dom can order the submissive food for them um and you may think well that is just kind of weird or the the server is going to think something weird or the people you’re with is going to think something weird but like I guarantee you like for a lot of these you’re probably reading more into things than people are even thinking people are more concerned about what they’re doing than than what you’re doing so again that’s just one thing you can do at meal time is to have the the Dom order for their sub if you’re into something like ddlg or a caregiver little Dynamic another thing you can do is the the caregiver can even cut up the Little’s food that’s something like super cute um if you’re at a party or if you’re even at home you you the the submissive can serve the dominant their food you know get the the plate for them and present it to them um they can refill their glass if it’s empty so there’s just different things you can do and and one thing that actually me and my dom do whether we’re at a restaurant or even at home eating dinner with the kids is I don’t eat until my dom starts eating just as a a sign of respect so that’s just something that we’ve always done and so really think about how you can turn something something as common as eating that we all do how you can turn that into a DS protocol and then number six for the sixth idea you can incorporate is to incorporate different body movements and positioning so this kind of goes along with the hand gestures where no one really picks up what’s going on besides you but having roles around positioning can represent Dynamic and even this private way so for example is when you’re in public so having the the submissive walk on the inside of the sidewalk for safety making sure that the dominant is only always holding the siss hand um the submissive can even walk slightly behind the dominant um one thing we’ve even done is when we’re at Gatherings and if it’s not too awkward you know if people are like sitting on couches and on the floor and things like that that I will sit on the floor and my dom will sit like on a chair or on the couch so I’m always below him in that way and then another thing that kind of has to do with how we you know move around in spaces is so for us I can’t open the door for myself when my dominant is around so he opens the car door for me he opens the door to a building we’re going into um he even pushes the elevator button and it’s kind kind of funny because if I forget and I go to grab the handle or whatever he’ll just kind of lightly playfully slap my hand so again if someone saw that they wouldn’t even think anything’s weird they would just think that we’re kind of being flirtatious and just being cute in public and then the seventh way you can be Dom Sub in public and not have anyone know is just to send each other text you can be right next to someone and be on your phone I mean half of us are anyways and just send a either DS text or even some kind of kinky text and you can do this out um throughout the day too to kind of just maintain that Dynamic and it doesn’t have to be something elaborate either just even a quick you’re a good girl or you’re a good boy or just you know remember your role that can really go a long way in keeping the dynamic alive even when there’s other people right next to you and of course you can take texting even farther and I’ll just give you a personal story of something that my dom has done from time to time if we’re at a f family gathering or at a party my dom will tell me to go to the bathroom and text him a kinky picture of myself and send it to him and so that’s again something I can just go off and do on my own send him the picture and he just nonchalantly gets to look at his phone during a party or gathering and get gets to see what I send them so um that’s just something you can incorporate um sometimes too like if I’m being really um like bratty and public or something like that he’ll send me a quick text and just say you better watch it and so I know that I I better quit whatever I’m doing or when we get home I’m definitely going to get a punishment and then number eight is a gesture or a look um so again this is kind of like with the hand gesture stuff where no one knows but you but um something my dom has done is if we’re sitting and at a table and again I’m getting kind of bratty because I do that sometimes he might just give me a a quick pinch under the the table on my leg and that’s just again telling me to watch it or you can you know if the do you’re the dominant you can put your hand on the back of the submissive’s neck and that can kind of just keep your Dynamic again it doesn’t look like you’re doing anything big but both of you will know what you’re doing and just subtle looks too I know you know Doms like to kind of just raise their eyebrow and and give their submissive a look and so you can make this your own and do any kind of like hand gesture or thing with your body or just a certain look um and you’ll definitely know what’s going on even if no one else does so number nine we’re almost to number 10 which is my favorite way but for number nine decide on the clothes or the makeup or the hair that the submissive will wear um ahead of time wherever you’re going so a lot of times if we’re going to an event or a party my dom will pick out what I wear and sometimes he’ll even just pick out something like my undergarments of what I’m going to wear or will tell me not to wear undergarments so um a lot of times too he’ll tell me you know how he would like my hair to be or I’ll ask him like what do you want me to do with my makeup and and so that’s a way of just showing that he has control over me and giving him that respect and then when we’re out in public I know that what I’m wearing how my hair and makeup is that that’s something my dominant has decided and so you know when someone says to me oh I really like that outfit or your hair looks really cute then we both kind of know like he had had a hand in that and so that’s just a subtle way to keep our GS Dynamic alive when we’re in public Okay so we’ve made it to number 10 this is my favorite way to be Dom Sub in public because it kind of makes it a little game and so this is kind of like a drinking game if you’ve ever done a drinking game where you have to you know take a shot or a drink whenever something happens happens and so this is something that you can do also but we kind of do it more like keeping a tally of misbehaviors and so I’ll give you an example so if we’re at a dinner party and I’m putting my elbow on the table so my dom can text me and say that’s one and so one means one spanking when we get home and so every time I do it is another spanking and so you can do this with different behaviors um every time you know I go to grab the car door or you know the building door and and instead of letting my dom do it that can be another spanking when we get home but if you have some kind of rule like this and you can pick something um even really small like every time the submissive puts their hair behind the air could be one and the the dominant can just keep track and that way it just makes the event more fun to everybody’s thinking about something else and the conversations that they’re having but it just is a cute little way to keep the Dom and Sub in their role and make it really fun and also have those kind of punishments so when they get home there’s going to be a bunch of spankings probably happening when they get to be at home but these 10 ideas offer ways to stay connected and keep your Dynamic alive and kinky no matter where you are and if you need even even more real life examples to help inspire you definitely grab my free list of 20 different protocols at domu.com protocols and I’ll put a link for it in the description too but I really encourage you to try one or two of these ideas we mentioned today or even come up with your own unique ways to stay connected and I’d love to hear which of these ideas resonates with you so definitely leave a comment about what You’ like to try or if you have a subtle practice of your own that you can share and if you found these ideas helpful definitely subscribe for more kinky content like this and until next time keep embracing your power and pleasure through Dom of living .
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0.48 do you want to keep your Dom sub
2.159 connection alive even while you’re out
4.12 in public but worry you might draw
6.72 attention I get it you probably don’t
9.44 want anyone else noticing what’s
11.2 supposed to be private but here’s the
13.599 thing you can engage in subtle
16.119 meaningful and even kinky ways that are
18.52 completely under the radar I’m alisander
21.32 from Doms of living and today I’m
23.4 sharing 10 ideas you can use to keep
26.08 your DS Dynamic alive without anyone
28.679 around you even knowing
30.48 let’s dive in welcome to the Dom subl
33.719 podcast before I share all of my proven
36.64 tips and tricks for DSM public
39.12 definitely grab my free list of 20
41.0 different protocols at domu.com
44.2 protocols that way you can see real life
46.719 examples to help Inspire your Dynamic
49.44 and again you can download that for free
51.199 at domo.com
53.199 protocols but back to how to be Dom Sub
56.64 in public so for many of us DS isn’t
60.28 just something we keep behind closed
62.6 doors I know for me and my dom we are
65.92 24/7 so even when we’re in public we’re
69.36 in our dominant and submissive roles and
72.159 it’s just part of who we are but of
74.88 course we also want to stay private at
78.439 times and we want to make sure we’re
80.92 obeying the laws and so not doing
83.24 anything overly kinky out in public cuz
86.96 again you know BDSM is all about consent
90.799 I’m always saying that on this podcast
93.119 and so we have to make sure that we’re
96.0 um respecting the consent of those
98.439 around us so even in public SP spaces
101.759 because um especially people like
104.0 children may even be present so even
106.6 though we want to you know bring our
110.04 Dynamic out into the the real vanilla
113.04 world we have to be mindful and kind of
115.719 read the room too so that brings me to
118.6 why I really wanted to
120.399 make an episode all about this because I
123.039 know I’m not the only one who really
125.039 wants to have my Dynamic out in the
128.64 public and not just something I have to
130.64 contain to the bedroom it’s something
132.879 I’m really proud of and I love my
135.519 identity as a submissive so I I
138.239 definitely want to be able to express
140.44 myself at all times and also there’s the
143.0 kinky side too doing something out in
145.519 the open is kind of that exhibitionist
148.56 in me that wants to have that thrill so
152.28 in this episode I’ll be sharing 10
155.0 discrete ideas that work in any setting
158.16 so this can be a casual outing to even a
161.76 family gathering and I’m even going to
164.239 share my favorite way at the very end so
167.36 definitely stick around but let’s get to
169.76 the first idea so the first way you can
173.0 be DS in public is to have secret hand
177.0 signals and so this is just really a
179.92 subtle way that you and your partner can
183.08 kind of just have a code for each other
185.92 I’ve seen things like a dominant kind of
189.0 like scratching by their eye and that
191.28 kind of just means like watch it to
193.36 their submissive um you can even do
196.84 subtle hand squeezes so this is
199.159 something my dom and I do that when
202.04 we’re holding hands in public we can
204.84 have just different secret codes for for
208.12 squeezing our hands together so
210.439 different patterns will mean different
212.519 things and so no one knows it we can
215.239 just be at the dinner table we can be
218.2 out with friends we can be totally out
221.239 in public and just holding hands and it
223.36 looks totally totally normal but we’re
227.439 squeezing our hands in a certain pattern
229.48 and it it means something kinky or just
233.04 even something sweet too so that is one
236.04 way you can do DS in public now the
238.92 second idea I have for you is to wear
241.72 something under your clothes so what you
244.68 wear or even what you don’t wear can
247.56 really help you to remember your role
250.319 and there is a ton of ways you can go
252.519 about this so of course you can do
254.48 things like plugs some of them are even
257.28 remote controlled so that’s a lot of fun
259.519 you can do different kind of clamps
261.4 under your clothes you can even do
263.08 shabari rope harnesses I’ve done that
265.4 before there’s chastity devices benoa
269.039 balls you can even write sayings on your
272.199 body in Sharpie and have you know all of
275.199 that under clothing so no one would know
277.88 you can even not wear certain things so
280.96 going totally Commando under your
283.84 clothes um that’s something I’ve done
286.56 before a lot of times if we’re at a
289.88 party with friends my dom will whisper
292.68 in my ear to go to the restroom and take
297.0 off my panties and give them to him even
300.44 so that way he can walk around with them
302.28 in his pocket and so it’s just something
304.88 kinky that we both know that I’m not
306.72 wearing anything that I just went to the
308.6 bathroom and took them off and now
310.12 they’re in his pocket so no one knows
313.28 what’s going on but so definitely you
315.919 know think creatively here but what you
318.6 wear or again what you don’t wear under
321.24 your clothes can really bring that
324.08 Dynamic out of the bedroom and then
326.36 number three is having code words that
329.0 you can use in conversation so this is
330.72 kind of like the hand gestures but it’s
332.4 just certain words or phrases that can
334.28 mean different things um and they don’t
337.0 even have to be coded um I use daddy a
340.56 lot of the time because my dominant is
343.36 the father of our children and so it
345.24 doesn’t sound weird or odd when I call
348.16 him daddy and and so that’s just
350.199 something that we do too but you can
351.759 have certain phrases certain code words
354.88 so that way when you say them it it
357.4 totally means something for your dynamic
359.84 and then number four for how you can be
362.199 domb in public is to wear special
365.8 jewelry so you know of course I wear my
368.96 collar and no one has really asked me
371.88 anything about it other than like oh
374.36 that’s a nice necklace where’d you get
376.0 it at that’s kind of the only thing that
378.759 people really ask me about um and if you
380.96 are curious where I got it at you can um
384.319 get my affiliate Link at domom
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387.68 eternity and this is called eternity
390.479 collar and so you can check it out there
392.68 but if you’re not into necklaces or
395.16 collars that’s totally fine there’s tons
397.199 of different other kinds of jewelry you
399.0 can have you can have bracelets anklets
402.96 Rings earrings um I’ve even seen people
406.199 have keychains even so there’s just
409.0 different ways you can go about this and
411.639 it’s just about having that special
413.919 meaning that maybe only the two of you
416.24 know um and so it can just bring more um
421.08 intention to your Dynamic but I know
423.919 wearing my collar in public just is a a
427.12 subtle reminder for both me and my dom
429.68 when we see it when I feel it against me
432.319 to know that we are still in our Dom sub
434.639 roles and then number five is having
437.4 Meal Time rituals so having rules around
441.16 Meal Time can really represent your
443.599 dynamic in even a private way even when
446.919 you’re in a public place even when
448.84 you’re with family even you know around
451.639 the Thanksgiving dinner table you can do
453.639 this or even at a restaurant too so if
456.199 you’re at a restaurant one thing you can
458.56 do is the the Dom can order the
461.8 submissive food for them um and you may
465.28 think well that is just kind of weird or
467.44 the the server is going to think
468.8 something weird or the people you’re
470.4 with is going to think something weird
472.039 but like I guarantee you like for a lot
474.44 of these you’re probably reading more
476.199 into things than people are even
477.84 thinking people are more concerned about
480.199 what they’re doing than than what you’re
482.479 doing so again that’s just one thing you
485.12 can do at meal time is to have the the
487.639 Dom order for their sub if you’re into
490.96 something like ddlg or a caregiver
493.639 little
494.599 Dynamic another thing you can do is the
497.639 the caregiver can even cut up the
499.84 Little’s food that’s something like
501.8 super cute um if you’re at a party or if
507.52 you’re even at home you you the the
510.84 submissive can serve the dominant their
513.76 food you know get the the plate for them
515.959 and present it to them um they can
518.279 refill their glass if it’s empty so
520.919 there’s just different things you can do
523.519 and and one thing that actually me and
525.64 my dom do whether we’re at a restaurant
527.36 or even at home eating dinner with the
529.839 kids is I don’t eat until my dom starts
534.04 eating just as a a sign of respect so
537.64 that’s just something that we’ve always
539.16 done and so really think about how you
541.76 can turn something something as common
544.6 as eating that we all do how you can
546.959 turn that into a DS protocol and then
550.44 number six for the sixth idea you can
553.44 incorporate is to incorporate different
556.44 body movements and positioning so this
558.64 kind of goes along with the hand
560.2 gestures where no one really picks up
562.64 what’s going on besides you but having
565.92 roles around positioning can represent
569.519 Dynamic and even this private way so for
572.44 example is when you’re in public so
574.8 having the the submissive walk on the
577.68 inside of the sidewalk for safety making
581.6 sure that the dominant is only always
584.04 holding the siss hand um the submissive
588.079 can even walk slightly behind the
590.8 dominant um one thing we’ve even done is
593.72 when we’re at Gatherings and if it’s not
595.959 too awkward you know if people are like
598.0 sitting on couches and on the floor and
600.32 things like that that I will sit on the
602.6 floor and my dom will sit like on a
604.72 chair or on the couch so I’m always
606.959 below him in that way and then another
610.079 thing that kind of has to do with how we
612.279 you know move around in spaces is so for
615.2 us I can’t open the door for myself when
618.44 my dominant is around so he opens the
621.6 car door for me he opens the door to a
624.0 building we’re going into um he even
626.959 pushes the elevator button and it’s kind
629.32 kind of funny because if I forget and I
631.64 go to grab the handle or whatever he’ll
633.68 just kind of lightly playfully slap my
636.24 hand so again if someone saw that they
638.72 wouldn’t even think anything’s weird
640.279 they would just think that we’re kind of
641.92 being flirtatious and just being cute in
644.6 public and then the seventh way you can
648.04 be Dom Sub in public and not have anyone
651.32 know is just to send each other text you
654.72 can be right next to someone and be on
657.6 your phone I mean half of us are anyways
660.0 and just send a either DS text or even
663.56 some kind of kinky text and you can do
666.36 this out um throughout the day too to
668.56 kind of just maintain that Dynamic and
671.24 it doesn’t have to be something
673.12 elaborate either just even a quick
675.72 you’re a good girl or you’re a good boy
678.639 or just you know remember your role that
681.279 can really go a long way in keeping the
684.2 dynamic alive even when there’s other
686.72 people right next to you and of course
688.839 you can take texting even farther and
692.44 I’ll just give you a personal story of
694.6 something that my dom has done from time
696.639 to time if we’re at a f family gathering
699.639 or at a party my dom will tell me to go
703.88 to the bathroom and text him a kinky
707.399 picture of myself and send it to him and
710.519 so that’s again something I can just go
712.6 off and do on my own send him the
714.88 picture and he just nonchalantly gets to
717.04 look at his phone during a party or
720.279 gathering and get gets to see what I
722.32 send them so um that’s just something
725.76 you can incorporate um sometimes too
728.279 like if I’m being really um like bratty
731.6 and public or something like that he’ll
733.44 send me a quick text and just say you
736.399 better watch it and so I know that I I
739.56 better quit whatever I’m doing or when
741.32 we get home I’m definitely going to get
743.279 a punishment and then number eight is a
747.0 gesture or a look um so again this is
750.76 kind of like with the hand gesture stuff
752.24 where no one knows but you but um
755.48 something my dom has done is if we’re
757.519 sitting and at a table and again I’m
760.36 getting kind of bratty because I do that
763.399 sometimes he might just give me a a
765.399 quick pinch under the the table on my
768.079 leg and that’s just again telling me to
770.519 watch it or you can you know if the do
774.04 you’re the dominant you can put your
775.92 hand on the back of the submissive’s
778.04 neck and
779.839 that can kind of just keep your Dynamic
783.079 again it doesn’t look like you’re doing
784.68 anything big but both of you will know
787.76 what you’re doing and just subtle looks
791.0 too I know you know Doms like to kind of
793.44 just raise their eyebrow and and give
795.519 their submissive a look and so you can
799.12 make this your own and do any kind of
801.92 like hand gesture or thing with your
804.76 body or just a certain look um and
808.0 you’ll definitely know what’s going on
809.76 even if no one else does so number nine
813.44 we’re almost to number 10 which is my
815.959 favorite way but for number nine decide
819.48 on the clothes or the makeup or the hair
823.079 that the submissive will wear um ahead
825.639 of time wherever you’re going so a lot
828.6 of times if we’re going to an event or a
831.04 party my dom will pick out what I wear
834.56 and sometimes he’ll even just pick out
836.639 something like my undergarments of what
838.48 I’m going to wear
839.6 or will tell me not to wear
840.88 undergarments so um a lot of times too
843.88 he’ll tell me you know how he would like
845.88 my hair to be or I’ll ask him like what
848.399 do you want me to do with my makeup and
851.04 and so that’s a way of just showing that
853.16 he has control over me and giving him
855.72 that respect and then when we’re out in
857.839 public I know that what I’m wearing how
861.04 my hair and makeup is that that’s
862.88 something my dominant has decided and so
866.12 you know when someone says to me oh I
868.839 really like that outfit or your hair
870.639 looks really cute then we both kind of
872.68 know like he had had a hand in that and
875.16 so that’s just a subtle way to keep our
877.399 GS Dynamic alive when we’re in public
880.079 Okay so we’ve made it to number 10 this
883.399 is my favorite way to be Dom Sub in
886.959 public because it kind of makes it a
888.88 little game and so this is kind of like
891.88 a drinking game if you’ve ever done a
893.839 drinking game where you have to you know
896.36 take a shot or a drink whenever
898.519 something happens happens and so this is
900.68 something that you can do also but we
904.12 kind of do it more like keeping a tally
907.68 of misbehaviors and so I’ll give you an
910.8 example so if we’re at a dinner party
914.68 and I’m putting my elbow on the table so
918.079 my dom can text me and say that’s one
921.24 and so one means one spanking when we
923.759 get home and so every time I do it is
926.36 another spanking and so you can do this
928.24 with different
929.68 behaviors um every time you know I go to
933.48 grab the car door or you know the
935.44 building door and and instead of letting
938.639 my dom do it that can be another
940.639 spanking when we get home but if you
943.399 have some kind of rule like this and you
945.68 can pick something um even really small
948.92 like every time the submissive puts
950.519 their hair behind the air could be one
953.279 and the the dominant can just keep track
956.48 and that way it just makes the event
959.319 more fun to everybody’s thinking about
961.88 something else and the conversations
964.04 that they’re having but it just is a
966.6 cute little way to keep the Dom and Sub
969.079 in their role and make it really fun and
972.0 also have those kind of punishments so
974.399 when they get home there’s going to be a
976.44 bunch of spankings probably happening
978.68 when they get to be at home but these 10
981.279 ideas offer ways to stay connected and
983.959 keep your Dynamic alive and kinky no
986.48 matter where you are and if you need
988.68 even even more real life examples to
990.88 help inspire you definitely grab my free
993.16 list of 20 different protocols at
995.319 domu.com protocols and I’ll put a link
998.88 for it in the description too but I
1000.88 really encourage you to try one or two
1002.839 of these ideas we mentioned today or
1005.279 even come up with your own unique ways
1007.399 to stay connected and I’d love to hear
1010.44 which of these ideas resonates with you
1012.319 so definitely leave a comment about what
1014.36 You’ like to try or if you have a subtle
1017.04 practice of your own that you can share
1019.0 and if you found these ideas helpful
1020.839 definitely subscribe for more kinky
1022.72 content like this and until next time
1025.36 keep embracing your power and pleasure
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